INTERNET DATING IS NO CHILD'S PLAY!
THIS BOOK IS MADE TO CREATE AWARENESS OF THE SUCCESS AND AGONY OF INTERNET DATING
CONTENTS
1) WHAT IS DATING
2) WHAT YOU MUST DO BEFORE STARTING
3) WHAT TO EXPECT WHEN STARTING
4) WHAT ARE MIND GAMES
5) WHO SHOULD I TRUST
6) DOES LOVE EXIST ONLINE
7) WHEN DO I HAVE SEX
8) WHO IS A SEX EXPLOITER
9) WHAT ARE MY RIGHTS ONLINE
10) DON'T BE VULNERABLE
11) ALWAYS ASK QUESTIONS REGARDING YOUR NEEDS
12) DON'T WASTE YOUR TIME
13) WANDERERS / SEX HUNTERS ONLINE
14) HOW TO SPOT A DATING ADICT SEX HUNTER
15) YOU CAN'T AFFORD TO COMPLICATE YOUR LIFE
16) READ SEX HUNTERS LYING SQUAD'S PROFILES
What is dating?
DATING is an act of a relationship formed between two people with mutual understanding with aim of each assessing the other's suitability as partner or spouse online..
You must be able to understand the word of assessing the other person before you proceed on dating there is no gender restriction, most female thought its only men who have the right assessing the other's suitability in dating, this is not true both party has this right to ensure the right decision was made.
What you must do before starting online dating,
Write down your age sincearly and ask yourself if you are 18yrs or above the reason for this question may surprise you, because an online dating is a very dangerous zone. the idea of dating was not meant for children because many children has fell victim of many terrible stuffs such as kidnapping, rape, unwanted pregnancy, drug even death as a matter of fact report shows that the rate of serious offences such as rape, murder are mostly linked to attached strangers online,since teenager are vulnerable to sweet coated words, therefore every teenager must ensure they speak to an adult person when considering an internet dating.
Formula B: write down what you are looking for remember if you don't know where you are going every road would seems all right, wait a minute write down what you are looking for in a partner you about to meet, if you don't know what to write permit me to suggest some questions, for instance.
What sort of people you are most attracted to; white/Caucasian, black descent, mixed races, Hispanic or others, knowing who you are attracted to will help you from deviation or confusion online tick the box accordingly.
What height, age, occupation are you seeking in your date remember your date must complement you in away very important.
what characters or behaviour are you looking for in the partner you are about to date online, let me expand on these, if for instance you are temperament in nature, you must look out for a calm collected person who must be opposite of you otherwise you both might never be right.
Now, write down most important things that might guild you as a manual towards your dream partner online, remember you must know what you are looking for before you register for an online dating.
What to expect on an online dating
This is simple. There are three groups of people you would definitely find in an online dating: the genuine, fake and confused. May I use this medium to explain; because the online transaction is not visible to all of us everyone hide behind computers its more like when wearing a "mask" nobody could tell who anybody is under a mask except the person wearing it. Therefore there genuine people who are real and very much ready to find a genuine person like them.
The genuine people appeared frankly and direct, when writing their profiles online and they don't lie about most important things such as age, occupation height background race because they are always willing to meet up, to prove the genuity to the other person. Moreso the genuine people obviously thought there's no point lying about important things as they always prepared to meet up, genuine people value integrity in everything they do.
Second group of people are the fake people. A fake person is someone who acts like something they are not to gain, note this point a fake person lack integrity and they are shameless, no matter how handsome or beautiful they might appear or they might come from a well known background but the point remains a liar is fake, every liar has got something wicked 'within' they are very heartless in thought and time wasting means nothing to them. Fake people have thought of exploitation online, fake people does not value anyone's life, since they themselves has got no life, they might sweet talk you to everything like sex, honestly speaking this is more common than spams or scams.
Do not be deceived protect yourself from the worst people online ' Sex exploiters' the worst set of people online you must watch out for when searching for a genuine partner they have copies of many writer's poet and they are full of many fantasies, now I leave you to this according to what I said earlier you must write down what you are looking for before you embark on dangerous Zone online dating.Many Fake people has many criminal record, many might still be in the hiding not yet known to the law as a Sex offender because most people feel ashamed to exposed the trauma of sex ordeal to public. Fake people online are evil people without mercy please do remember.
Third group are confused people; is someone who leads a wandering unsettled life they are likely describe as merry go round kind of people they just "Wandering Around" no point of destination in their lives, no room for seriousness if you want one, they are either looking for what they don't need without any reasonable plan, they are without purpose no idea why they came on dating site, just like fool go around shops to waste time, they take dating site as join together place of meetings, they come for a while chatting and disappear without goodbye to you, another time they come around they text you or request for chat, this people don't have mind of their own therefore, don't bother waste your time, if you ask them what they wanted the answer is always too shallow to consider for a fact...you know what they are 'confused dot nonsense' people like that often use people for adventure to cure boredoms and loneliness confused people are not reliable for anything except you have the time to help them with sense of direction otherwise watch it!
Mind games
This is a deliberate action of calculated psychological manipulation intended to intimidate or confuse (usually for competitive advantage) or The term mind games refers to passive aggressive behaviour used specifically to demoralize the subject while making the aggressor look superior.
Mind games are mostly common in online dating profiles, many people write a profile to portray an impression that they are suitable for many people to consider for a date, at this junction you have to rethink and digest every profile if proved too good online, remember if its too good to be true it means its not.
Who should I trust?
Trust is belief: be confident about something or the trait of believing in the honesty and reliability of others;therefore if you seek my sincere opinion do not trust anyone on a dating site until you are convinced by your instinct due to honesty or sincerity approach towards what they sort or hope for in dating...Always expect your instinct to lead when sensing a stranger you never met or know.having stated trusting your instinct does not mean you have to always come to conclusion ordinarily without "accurate fact" regarding the other person in question, lets take for instance its not everyone who requested or seek a help is a scammer, let me explain further on these, many people are genuinely in need of things you don't consider to be a need, etc. food, shelter, cloth and money, in most country where poverty is crowded about, need is a reality not a fiction therefore do not zero your mind to everyone is a scammer attitude but at the same time often ensure your instinct has considered an accurate fact before you give out any costly gift to strangers, remember this at all times trust your instinct.
Does love exist online?
This is a very sensitive question. Love is a strong positive emotion of regard and affection towards another person or people. Love does not exist online but likeness or infatuation does in most cases, infatuation is an object of extravagant short-lived passion. You may want to argue this, but remember you can't confirm someone's character and behaviour by chatting just online without meeting them, there must be a physical attributes to bark up those character or behaviour they claimed to have, love takes process and a bit of time to become rooted and grow otherwise its only an infatuation. I will like to explain the process of love; through likeness develop a passion to intimacy then grow to love, its very difficult to develop a passion for who you don't like and without passion there is no intimacy and if no intimacy then there is no love. Love is like a car engine, without engine there is no movement, except it's been pushed... infatuation is different from love in the sense that love is well rooted passion with purpose of everlasting values, while infatuation is a temporary short lived-passion.. at this point you must be very careful not to mistake infatuation for love on an online dating.
When do I have sex?
Sex is an intimacy appealing arousing the sexual organ into penetrating or orally touch, You must ensure you have sex at the right time, with the right person for the right reasons at all time, always remember every time you have sex you are giving out a piece of you out, this you must note down seriously sex is deeper than we think, it goes beyond cup of coffee or pint of beer.
Who is a sex exploiter?
It's anyone who pretends someone was suitable for him/or her in a relationship in order to lure him/her into sex and disappear.
I would like to expand on this, remember the word 'pretence' pretence is an an act of deception, where ever you find pretence and you must also find manipulation the next of kin to deception, they all work hand in hand therefore be careful on site, many rapist and sex offender are online, they might pretend they were looking for love, you don't have to give sex to get love, sex does not mean love, every western person should note these, its absurd to give sex to stranger for a cup of tea or coffee, some give out sex for pint of beer No, it does not help love, in Africa, Asian and so many other countries it's easy to know a decent person, because it's not a cheap cup of tea or pint of beer that would move a anyone to date anybody, the task on relationship is stronger than cup of tea and coffee.. Having said that it does not mean that it's a wrong idea to share a drink with people but be vigilant and do not accept a beer beyond your capacity, remember the day would break after the night and it's important you secure your integrity with high value otherwise an exploiter would take advantage of you and walk away smiling as you've just topped up the victim's number.
What are my rights?
It is your right to develop a friendship with who ever suit your expectation....
Don't be vulnerable
It’s a matter of knowing what you are up for. Online dating is like playing football: many football players want to score, others want to watch, at least everyone is taking part.
If you don’t want to become a victim to sex exploiters in online dating make sure you take part in the game, otherwise you are going to lose out. I have heard some men used a vulgar word against women, referring to ladies who request a man to take responsibility as “prostitute”? And these word set most women back from demanding their right and these men take advantage by making use of those girls without having to take responsibilities as they make them venerable.
These men come to them, buy them coffee or tea one or two times, and next thing they are touching and smooching taking sex at the expense of tea or coffee. Where as, these ladies still don’t have food, are without good cloth, even have no place to put their head. Tell me in what way coffee has or tea played a responsible role in that dating with a sex exploiter?
I had observed vividly how a man who does not see the responsibility of taking care of his date would try as much to make her vulnerable in order to continuously take advantage of her. Girls, you don’t have to remain silent when dealing with men on dating, try to pass across your needs without any fear of what he tagged you with. After all, dating was meant for two people as a WIN WIN thing, 50/50 regardless of what. No one is a saint in online dating, or what does it make men who lure girls for sex in the pretence of wanting serious relationship? If a lady who requests of a man that he takes care of her financially is tagged as prostitute? The answer is simple; he is a sex exploiter too. It takes one to know one.
Having said this, there are some girls who also want to grab gifts from men without having any intention of dating them even for one second. Such ladies are also there taking advantage of vulnerable men. But, there are very few vulnerable men on dating sites: most cases of vulnerability are found within 89% of women according to research.
Heed to this warning, do not become vulnerable through stupidity. Any man who does not show concern towards your needs at the early stage of your dating wouldn’t do you any good in the near future. Remember the beginning of sex exploitation is to take advantage and the end is to leave you vulnerable as he works his way towards the next victim.
Always ask questions regarding your needs
The earlier you know you both have needs the better. Nobody goes to Asda or Tesco without list of needs of what he intends to buy unless he is only a wanderer. Here an online dating site indicates a relationship shopping centre; therefore absolute care must be taken if you don’t want to pick a wrong product as, when picking a wrong person, dealing with a total stranger, you deserve to ask questions regarding what you both want, otherwise where there is no effective communication the end is always jeopardy.
Let me help you here on relatively questions:
- What do you seek or hope to find on these dating shop where I met you?
- How long have you been here for?
- What do you want to happen between us? That takes you to either casual, friendship, or serious.
- How long have you been single? Mind you, you also must be ready to answer the same question you request of your date.
- How do you want to be treated? That also takes you to how you want him or her to treat you in return.
- Have you met somebody here and how does it go?
Complexity is the beginning of failure, while being inferior reflects a defeated soul. Therefore be courageous with less drama. Ask what you want, after all he/she could only either say Yes or No. Nobody breaks the law by asking.
Unanswered question would leave you with doubt, if you realized you have made a mistake in your answer correct it by calling him on phone, clarity is the best life options.
Don't waste your time
My philosophy regarding time is that, Life is a time timer, the earlier you face the reality of your precious time the better. Permit me to help you with an illustration. If there was any person you hoped to share your life with, without the credibility of etiquette and manners you will find out that a relationship with such a person is nothing but a waste of time. Permit me to expand on that. Tell me how could you possibly sit comfortable with a date who does not make respect paramount? Such a relationship always ends before starting but it’s up to you to decide that. The moment your date starts telling you crap: saying it’s too early to give you some financial support and he does not see it too early to have sex or smooch your body, it’s a bloody waste of time. Remember you are only applying your instinct, it’s never as if you are lacking to test his sense of responsibility before the stranger puts you in the family way and smiles walking out of your door with jubilation.
Wanderers / sex hunters online
Do not be deceived many - up to 78% - become addicted to online dating; the only hobby they exercise is logging in to dating sites on daily basis. Why? Many have lost their sense of belongings, mentally, morally, psychologically they have lost it through ex-girlfriends and ex-boyfriends, ex-wives, ex-husbands and they are obviously aware that they do not fit in to the society of adequate sanity. Guess what? They decide to get some other people as a victim to pay back part of their loss or molest the innocent to become like them. These sorts of people are liars and fake; online they can never get settled with any woman regardless of how much you try, the only mission was to target a sex victim. They only came there to damage the lives of people, in fact they can sometimes be ruthless: 6 out of 10 murders arise from members of one dating site or another. Women, be careful whom you date. The moment you observe some inconsistency in the conversation don’t even wait, look for the next exit and flee.
Don’t wait till you get killed by a mental drained person who has got nothing to add to your life, watch who you kiss or have sex with. Some of these idiots don’t even brush their mouths, nor have a shower for days. The NHS does not require more patients, there are lot of cuts going on in the United Kingdom. Tell me what purpose does it serve, if you add to the number of patients in hospital with contagious diseases? Most sexually transmitted disease, gum infections, lung infections, skin disorders such as eczema, ring worms and many more sicknesses were linked to dating those who exhibit a casual touch and go approach. Ask yourself, is it worth it?
In my sincere opinion it would be better to purchase a sex toys in Ann Sumer than have to complicate your loneliness with some idiot who makes you a victim to pay for their own failure.
How to spot a dating adict sex hunter
Action, they say, speak louder than words. Let me expand on that through research. An addictive dater would do anything to package lies on their various profiles to attract a prey. Let’s take for instance, why should a non millionaire man register on millionaire dating site? Why should anyone register on a dating site without any picture? Why should any genuine person not include current pictures on his or her profile? Why should any genuine person request to post you a picture in your private mail box?
I bet you 96% of these people were nothing but a sex hunter with a hidden agenda. He’s got a lot of victims to hide from, as he continuously changes profile names; he understands it’s very easy to identify him through his picture, so he then decided on a hide and seek platform.
You have been warned! Most profiles are not genuine regardless of how constructive the profile seems. Make sure you stand on firmness of heart. If any stranger starts asking for sex, the defence you should build around yourself is to start pointing to your financial support for basic needs which is more common to women. Mind those things might not really be a need but do put him on trial and watch him fail your test through which you be able to spot the difference in his action.
I have written it once and twice. Ladies if any man can’t keep you secure, such a man can never be of any good to you. Tell me, a man who can’t afford your toiletries who claimed on his profile such as: income earner of average or more than average, generous, kind, giver and responsible and still he neglects basic needs except constantly to explain his urges and passion for sex without showing interest or acknowledging your own needs but constantly brushing it off with style - that guy is nothing but an irresponsible man.
Therefore set yourself a sign board: beware of bull dogs!
You can't afford to complicate your life
In a second you may fall victim to rape or be lured into complicated sex through carelessness or care free attitudes. Let me explain further. If a man you never know starts by agreeing to your terms and conditions, be careful, he might be trying to psychic you up to gain entry into your life, in order to mess you up big time. Remember, most of these sex hunters lives were already complicated, so complicating yours wouldn’t make any big deal to him. Before you get stocked into the world of the unrealistic, you must summon the courage to find out every truth and hold on to it.
Don’t just start trusting a stranger be on the defence, be watchful that kissing a stranger would lead to sex and sex means you have given in to his falsehood fantasies. Do you even know why these guys come to good girls? Because the bad girls were like them and they could never gain but lose in the game. Why don’t sex hunters go to brothels to meet with prostitutes? The answer is simple, the prostitute can’t give them free and they can’t afford paying daily to prostitutes. So they then come to dating sites mingling with good girls to spoil and exploit.
Ask yourself how do you possibly assess a man who is married and he is telling you online that he is seeking love from a single girl to be his lover rather than a mistress. You know what? He wouldn’t request a mistress because it reflects how much a cheater he was and the fact that being a mistress cost a price tag; he would package it with seeking a lover, so as not to take any responsibility toward your bills, rent, or shopping etc which you are entitled to as a mistress.
Tell me honestly, what love can a married man give to a single girl if not to use her as a sex toy satisfying his selfish desires? Another complicated sexual hunter was separated/ divorced. Don’t be relax at all, they appear banished by one woman or more mostly because they are either a cheat or irresponsible. The only way to find out is the ability to spot the truth by knowing he wasn’t after kissing, smooching and requesting sex from you. Ladies if you have an uncontrollable habit on sex, it's better that you get yourself sex toys and gain your respect rather than giving away your body to the men from the smelling of the mortuary sack and complicate your life for just £2 coffee.
Experience on dating sites
I am baffled at what lies I have heard and read from 96% of men. While I was writing this book I registered on several dating sites from where I understood better where dark lying dragons dwell, it's called a dating den. Where so many destinies were wasted and every fresh rose thrown out into bins, and all the good girls turned bad.
It’s now clearer to me why some ladies choose commercialised sex instead of giving it freely. The answer is simple; having given innumerable acquitters freely for love; they have always left them with nothing but a broken heart and then moved on to the next victim.
It's very unfortunate how these men had destroyed young innocent girls; as her ignorance was taken advantage of to exploit her sexually. Parents, watch your daughters and lay a good firm foundation for them to emulate. There is a popular saying: “the man who bends down looking at another man’s ass leave his own ass uncovered from the people behind”. I will like to emphasize these. A father who lacks a responsible pattern of life, who drinks, is a drug addict, even excessive smoking, alongside violent behaviour, has got no positive influence on his children other than to let them out into the arms of strangers online where they hope to mingle away all sorrow. The sense of belonging of your children was long robbed and if your children get to the point of making online dating a confidant then you are a wasted space.
Read sex hunters lying squad's profiles
1. Male 44 United Kingdom
am 44 married am honest loveing careing easy to get on with g.s.o.h kind hearted i like going swimming rideing and driving my car love walks on a quiet beach under moonlight and stars am a none smoker and drinker
Seeking Criteria
- Members anywhere in United Kingdom.
- Members who speak English.
- Relationship with a female.
- Casual Dating with a female.
- Friendship with a female.
- Between 18 and 70 years of age.
kind honest truthfull person or is loveing careing looks dont matter as its wot kind of person you are that counts only looking for friendship
Here is a married man, seeking criteria are serious relationship, casual, friendship. Also this same married man who is a cheater is looking for kind, honest, truthful, loving caring and he later complicating it by writing friendship. He is a sex hunter and he has launched his net into the river to catch his prey. Beware!
2. Liar
I am 33 years old, live in central London, never done this before so not quite sure what to write. Am looking for someone whom I can primarily get along with and for want of a better word someone who I am attracted to.
This profile has been on dating site since 2007 and yet his profile states he has never done this before, what a bloody liar. Since 2007 till 2011, could you imagine how many ladies would have fallen prey to his lousy lies. Beware!
3. Another liar
Easy going kind of guy, enjoy stress free kind of life away from work, never get bored always have something on the go, love music, laughing, adventures & life in general, just looking for right lady to share life's enjoyment's with.
This guy also had been on this dating site since January 2005 till now.
More coming soon.